5 Misconceptions of Dating a “Fat” Person.
Sometimes it can seem like a person is interested in you but will not make the first step. Other times you’re wondering why things never go past flirting. The fact of the matter is that so many people have the worst misconceptions about dating someone who just so happens to be plus sized. Society’s generalizations about who we are can have such a negative impact on how some people who have never interacted with us, perceive us. So Shapely did some asking around and here are the top five answers that were provided by both men and women.
All plus size people are lazy.
First off, this cannot be further from the truth. We are not all lazy! Some of us can keep up and even out do a good number of people who think that. Size does not always determine ability. It is important not to assume that because someone is of a certain size, certain things that cannot be done. Don't believe me? Check out the slide show of some bit girls doing it! Want to see more? Follow pages like @mynameisjessamyn and/or @biggalyoga on Instagram.
2. Poor Hygiene
Yes we know that there are some factors that quite frankly, may cause us to smell faster than people of a smaller frame such as folds and rubbing thighs etc. However, because of this, we go the extra mile to ensure that this does not happen. The fact of the matter is that people of all shapes and sizes have hygiene issues and as such it is unfair to believe that people of larger size smell worse. No do you have some that just can do a better job? of course. I've ran into a person or two, or three lol and thought to myself that they needed a shower ASAP. I've also run into a bunch a people society will deem as "average size" that smelled as well so it seems like this is a "people" problem not a "plus-size people" problem.
3. Sex is Wack
Let me say this, the bigger the cushion, the better the pushing. First, I recommend investing sin some nice firm pillows. They work wonders for taking pressure off of certain spots and just helps with ease of access, positioning, and things of that nature. I’ve heard a lot of people who have never been with plus size women say that plus size women have “big vaginas,” which is impossible being that your vagina is inside of your body. Plus Size women can have more padding and/or fluff around the vagina (on their mons pubis and labia) than a thinner woman, creating a potentially tricky situation. This is why proper lubrication is so important because a plus size woman’s vagina can be hard enter, especially if it’s not properly lubricated. When she’s nice and juicy take your time to spread apart those big juicy fluffy lips and you should be good. Plus size men can have FUDA which is commonly known as Fat Under The Dick Area. This area serves as a cushion more than anything so relax you head on it when/if you become tired :-) Some plus size friendly positions include but are not limited to missionary, reverse cowgirl, and the various side positions. For more on this subject feel free to check out our earlier blog post "Fun Sex Tips For The Plus-Sized Body"
4. Plus Size People Are "Easy"
So many people think that they can mooch off of us or the women are easy to give up the goods. As a community, if we don't want this to be what people think, we have to change our behavior. But, for one second, don't think that you can pull your cheap number on us and we're going to be coughing up our paycheck or the "goods". Sooner or later you will run into that one confident person who knows his/her worth and will set your ass straight. So tread carefully and if you're looking for a come up look elsewhere.
5. You"’ll Gain Weight If You Date A Plus Size Person
This part here is all about control. You control what you put in your mouth. Do we have temptations? Of course but not all plus size people sit around and eat all day. Find a happy balance and I'm certain you’ll go far.
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